little minnie is the little side of me. She comes out when I am feeling particularly vulnerable. She is not a major part of me, per say. More specifically, we are not DD/lg full time. I am primarily submissive. However, I do touch into her, and she does feel like another side of me. minnie's … Continue reading little minnie
I equate vulnerability to insecurity. It is more than that, of course. Much, much more. It is a state of being open, emotionally available, and free. Without vulnerability, you have no communication, no connection, no bonding. It is at the soul, the very nucleus, of love. It is a necessity for life and happiness. It … Continue reading Vulnerability is actually a gift you give yourself.
This topic for 30 Days of D/s is about communication. Communication was always a strong point for us, before D/s became part of our dynamic. But like everything else in our relationship, it has become that much stronger and more important in D/s. We have created several protocols and routines that enforce our need to … Continue reading Squeakity, Squeak, Squeak, Squeakers.
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. … Continue reading Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Master asked me to make a list of all the ways I submit. I'm not sure what he expected, but what he got was a T-chart which I had to stop after 4 pages due to time constraints. As a teacher, graphic organizers are a serious bit of fun for me. Somewhere in the back … Continue reading The ways in which I submit.
I've been meandering around this idea. Conflict has to be dealt with in a relationship; vanilla or D/s. It is a natural part of any relationship, and the strategies a coping mechanisms you use evolve naturally as you and your relationship evolves. We certainly don't fight now like we did when we were 20 - … Continue reading Can conflict build the backbone of your D/s?
This Valentine's Day Mr.R and I went out for the evening. We had a glorious night, the highlight of which was a fancy new day collar for me. It probably looks like a necklace to anyone else, but signifies quite a lot more to me. I wear it throughout the day, with Mr.R putting it … Continue reading minnie got a new collar.
Today I had to go back to the vanilla world after almost of week without it. I was ready to report on how much it sucked. I expected to slip out feeling subbish. I expected some of that old anger to return. I expected to run into the grocery store lady. I thought I might … Continue reading To all the D/s bloggers I’ve loved before (…and still do)
Today's topic is about discipline and punishment. For me and my Dom, the timing was perfect as we were diving into new depths in this arena. The presentation of it by LovingBDSM included some very thoughtful and positive discussion questions and resources (Thanks again, Kayla!), and has made way for a great conversation\negotiation that was … Continue reading Can discipline make you stronger?
I like the way this topic is brought up in 30 Days of D/s; Negotiation is a fancy word for talk. With 20 years of marriage already under our belt, my Dom and I have certainly gone through some ups and downs, and learned how to talk under a myriad of circumstance and needs along … Continue reading A need, a desire, and an idea