Last night I asked one too many questions about exactly what would happen if I did fuck myself in the middle of the night. "If you made yourself cum, you'd be punished," Master went on, but I already knew the answer. I suppose I wanted to hear him say it, describe it just to prove … Continue reading The state of things.
I think I was always submissive. No one has ever seen me that way, and would probably think the opposite. I am known as a fighter. People have thought of me as someone who wants things my own way. It isn't true. It never has been. I just share my thoughts and ideas, while others … Continue reading I am what you made me.
We're finally in one house full-time. Whew! I haven't written about it much, but this has been the longest, most stressful move ever. Since we made the decision to move to CA last May we have been back and forth more times then I could possibly count - like honestly I have no idea how … Continue reading You can see me at the pool.
This is a real question I have. No, I'm not talking about topping from the bottom. Nor am I talking about my dynamic specifically. It might be more accurate phrased differently. Especially since I can hear your knee-jerk reaction. I heard mine. Hit the table, knee still hurts... But seriously, if you know anything about … Continue reading Can a submissive train a Master?
Punishment, or more accurately, your use of punishment is a major element in any power-exchange relationship. That doesn't mean you should definitely have it. It does mean you should definitely talk about it, have negotiated norms and expectations around it. You should also leave room to renegotiate those terms as time passes and your dynamic … Continue reading How to use PUNISHMENT to shape your dynamic effectively.
The amazing thing about kink, and being in this community, is that we all had to fight to get here. We all have a kinky journey of self acceptance and love. You know the story, it was the one where you had an inner beast to overcome.
This is my third post in a series on subspace, as promised, though it is a bit later then I intended. With my imposter fears, I almost abandoned the thread all together, but when I saw it half done I remembered how important this particular story is. I learned my lesson the hard way, but … Continue reading Do you abandon safety in subspace?
My life has brought about a lot of changes lately. I have moved... twice-ish. Bought and sold a house. Started and stopped jobs a few times. 2019 was a transformative year for me in a lot of ways. I recently made another major change in my life, and am beginning a new phase. It has … Continue reading My 2020 blog. What do you want to see?
I unwittingly started a series on subspace. Submissive Guide also has a great thread, and not one to be outdone, I will write at least twice as many... *checks submissive guide's thread* Crap, they've got eleven. ELEVEN posts! Okay, I'll let them outdo me. Their thread is great. 🙂 But it is missing something... My … Continue reading Do you want to shape your subspace?
My Master rarely gives me assignments, but he did last month concerning subspace. It happens to coincide with my next 30-Days topic, which is also on sub-space, so ta-da! Before describing subspace, I think it is important to separate it from the 'feeling' of submissiveness. They are really quite different, and should be recognized separately. … Continue reading Do you want to play in subspace?