This topic for 30 Days of D/s is about communication. Communication was always a strong point for us, before D/s became part of our dynamic. But like everything else in our relationship, it has become that much stronger and more important in D/s.
We have created several protocols and routines that enforce our need to maintain a high level of communication. We didn’t set out to make these routines, they came to us naturally out of our need for more and better communication as we entered into D/s. The biggest of these is rug time.
Our original creation of rug time came from a need to talk, kneel, and hide from our teenage sons roaming around the halls. Rug time is a place and time for any kind of conversation. We are both seriously emotionally invested into both the space, as this is where we say our mantras to each other daily, sometimes several times a day. Through our natural use of the space a protocol has developed that guides us in that place. It is the place where I feel the most submissive, and find myself craving time there.
It is named for my 5×8 rug on the floor in our room. It is soft, white with grey geometric lines, and sits at the foot of Master’s chair. When he is in his chair, I sit on my rug. Mostly I kneel, or worship at his feet. It gives me great comfort. It is a place where I feel safe and open. I know I can say anything. Be anything.
Rug time is the center of our routines every morning. It is also a place I go to if I get overly emotional, need to vent or negotiate, and could be sent there if I forget my place. (Though it hasn’t happened yet.)
Not to say mistakes haven’t happened there – they have. Emotions have gotten high, words have been mistaken, misused. It is only part of the natural course, the highs and lows. However, they are only temporary errors, and always forgiven later.