The ways in which I submit.

Master asked me to make a list of all the ways I submit. I'm not sure what he expected, but what he got was a T-chart which I had to stop after 4 pages due to time constraints. As a teacher, graphic organizers are a serious bit of fun for me. Somewhere in the back … Continue reading The ways in which I submit.

Can conflict build the backbone of your D/s?

I've been meandering around this idea. Conflict has to be dealt with in a relationship; vanilla or D/s. It is a natural part of any relationship, and the strategies a coping mechanisms you use evolve naturally as you and your relationship evolves. We certainly don't fight now like we did when we were 20 - … Continue reading Can conflict build the backbone of your D/s?

minnie got a new collar.

This Valentine's Day Mr.R and I went out for the evening. We had a glorious night, the highlight of which was a fancy new day collar for me. It probably looks like a necklace to anyone else, but signifies quite a lot more to me. I wear it throughout the day, with Mr.R putting it … Continue reading minnie got a new collar.

To all the D/s bloggers I’ve loved before (…and still do)

Today I had to go back to the vanilla world after almost of week without it. I was ready to report on how much it sucked. I expected to slip out feeling subbish. I expected some of that old anger to return. I expected to run into the grocery store lady. I thought I might … Continue reading To all the D/s bloggers I’ve loved before (…and still do)

Can discipline make you stronger?

Today's topic is about discipline and punishment. For me and my Dom, the timing was perfect as we were diving into new depths in this arena. The presentation of it by LovingBDSM included some very thoughtful and positive discussion questions and resources (Thanks again, Kayla!), and has made way for a great conversation\negotiation that was … Continue reading Can discipline make you stronger?

A need, a desire, and an idea

I like the way this topic is brought up in 30 Days of D/s; Negotiation is a fancy word for talk. With 20 years of marriage already under our belt, my Dom and I have certainly gone through some ups and downs, and learned how to talk under a myriad of circumstance and needs along … Continue reading A need, a desire, and an idea

Snowy Daydreams and a Bit of Blissful Desire.

There's something really sexy about a good snow fall. It coats the ground, the trees, even the sky, in a layer of pure white. It glitters in it's own clean, purity like a new set of lacey garters. The way undisturbed, freshly fallen snow runs across the ground reminds me of the gentle curves of … Continue reading Snowy Daydreams and a Bit of Blissful Desire.

Maintenance Spankings are Delicious

Maintenance: to maintain, to keep, to sustain, the process of maintaining or preserving someone or something, or the state of being maintained Spanking: 1) to slap with an open hand, usually on the ass, generally in repetition. 2) To have a good time,“I’ve had a spanking good time!”. 3) To give a good impression, to … Continue reading Maintenance Spankings are Delicious

Titles, Terms, and Labels

== Results from bdsmtest.org == 100% Submissive 100% Rope bunny 99% Slave 92% Masochist 90% Degradee 79% Boy/Girl 75% Pet 73% Primal (Prey) 71% Exhibitionist 67% Experimentalist 48% Voyeur 47% Non-monogamist 40% Daddy/Mommy 40% Brat 20% Ageplayer 18% Vanilla 11% Primal (Hunter) 5% Rigger 4% Brat tamer 1% Dominant 1% Switch 1% Sadist 0% Degrader … Continue reading Titles, Terms, and Labels

The making and growth of a submissive.

This is the second prompt in the 30 Days of D/s series. Submissy recent writing prompt, Tell me About it..., was also about submission. I responded to it only a few days ago in this post. I spoke deeply and personally about my experience as a sub, focusing on the transition I went through in becoming my Master's … Continue reading The making and growth of a submissive.