I’ve had a recent influx of new followers, and with it questions about how to find stuff on my blog, and who I am. I invite any and all of you to continue to email me with questions about my life, how to start or maintain a power-exchange relationship, or what it is to be sexually submissive.
minnie is my submissive name. The first letter is lowercase to designate my submissive role. I keep my vanilla life secret (mostly), including that other name, which I barely bond with anymore. I live in a 24/7 power-exchange relationship with my husband of 20+ years. Our dynamic, like every other power exchange dynamic, is original in its complexity and intricacies. He is my Master, my Dom. I serve as his submissive and his sex slave. We have grown into our roles more than I could say in one post, and I can no longer separate myself from my role. It is who I am. It is who we are.
The foundation of our dynamic is on our roles. As my Master, his charge is me. That is his words, not mine. He sees his sole purpose as ensuring I am the best version of myself I could be. As his submissive, my charge is serving him. That is my words, not his. This whole blog is about my role, my duties, and my actions doing just that – serving him. It includes our dynamic, our kink and some of my service as his sex slave, along with many facets of the real world we deal with. Mostly, it is about me and my growth, my journey as a submissive.
To give you a primer, I seperate my role down into two distinct purposes; being his submissive, and being his sex slave. Being a submissive versus being a slave are greatly different in the amount of power that is exchanged. To be a slave many in the kink community would say your only choice is to who you are giving the power to. After that, all the decisions are up to them; the Master or Dominate. To be a submissive (not a slave), you are selecting specific areas of power you wish to exchange, and then negotiating with your Dom how that exchange will work. In both cases you are placing power over your life in the hands of someone else, and following their lead, their decisions, even if you don’t get your way. Across the vast array of power-exchange relationships there are those live full-time as a slave in every way of their dynamic, and there are those who are submissive only in the bedroom. Each is unique and valid, suited to the members of the relationship.
In our dynamic, I have given over full control of our sex life, of my body as a sex toy to my Master. It does not mean I don’t have limits, or that we don’t discuss my kinks. It simply means that he makes all the choices involving all my kinks, in addition to his own, and that I submit to his wishes. My Master does indeed respect my limits, feeds my sexual desires and limits, and uses them to his desire. Our individual kinks and fantasies are not identical, however they do cross in places. As his sex slave, it becomes his choice when and where we should play on his side, or my side, or somewhere in between. He decides when my edges and limits will be pushed and in what ways. He molds me into the kind of whore he wishes me to be. In contrast, a submissive may negotiate some of these decisions. As a slave to him, He decides when and where I get used, and in what ways. He owns my orgasms, and can give them or take them at will, using orgasm control in a wide variety of practices for different purposes over the years. If you’d like to find out more about this, continue to read my blog. 🙂
If you’d like to read my blog from the beginning, I’d suggest you open it in a browser (not a blogger app), scroll to the bottom of the screen and click the ‘older posts’ link. If you repeat this enough times, you will eventually get to my very first post. There is also a calendar at the right side of the page with a link on each day I’ve made a blog post. Hopefully that is also useful. However, I do have to point out that our dynamic has grown so much over the years, I can guarantee that I was not the same person two years ago that I am now.
If you’d like to focus in on a couple recent posts that reveal a bit more about me, I’d suggest starting here; What I am to him – my four roles or here; A List About Me. Our rituals and routines are in the middle of a change, and I would suggest watching my upcoming posts as we enter into January to find out where those are headed. There are many posts about what our rituals and daily practices have been in the past including; Morning Maintenance Spankings: a Year-Long Reflection, My Morning Ritual, Is this an Act of Service or a Chore, and Daily Routines that Bind us. Part of our dynamic includes punishment, which I have only briefly touched on; How to use punishment to shape your dynamic, Mouthy Whore, How to take a bad Girl and Make her into a Good Girl.
Over the next month, as I have time, I will also be changing up my blog a bit, rearranging my categories, tags, pages. I will be updating my ‘about me’ and contact pages. I have other new features I am hoping to engage in as well, and hope you will enjoy them!