The Waxing and Waning of D/s

This 30 Days topic is about the ups and downs of life, the things that bring stress into a relationship, the things that pull you out of your D/s dynamic. I heard once that money, parenting, and the in-laws are the three biggest causes of divorce in a marriage. I would wager that was also … Continue reading The Waxing and Waning of D/s

Ya put your D/s in. Ya put your D/s out. Ya put your D/s in, and ya shake it all about!

The next 30 days topic from Loving BDSM is about maintaining D/s when you're apart. This could be in a long distance relationship, through dating, traveling, or any other space that pulls you out of that headspace. For us, that is our simple, everyday life. Neither of our jobs are such that we can stay … Continue reading Ya put your D/s in. Ya put your D/s out. Ya put your D/s in, and ya shake it all about!

Getting a brand new set of rules.

We are about to rewrite our rules. There's not necessarily anything wrong with the ones we have, except they haven't been updated in a while. The 14th topic for Loving BDSM's 30 Days is rules, so it seems the perfect time to bring it up. Our rules have always been a work in progress. Or, … Continue reading Getting a brand new set of rules.

Once, Twice, Three times a submissive.

This 30 days post is about bringing D/s into your vanilla life. I didn't find this email list until well after Mr.R and I were into D/s, so I thought I'd use this opportunity to tell more about how we came into D/s. Our D/s started with me. I invited Mr.R into D/s, after struggling … Continue reading Once, Twice, Three times a submissive.

Would you like a cup of tea?

This video is by far my most favorite when it comes to consent. It has nothing to do with BDSM or D/s specifically, but rather talks about consent in a broader sense, applying to all people. This is the British Voice Over version, because everything - especially when dealing with tea - is better with … Continue reading Would you like a cup of tea?

Pineapple Juice!

Pineapple is the second most common safeword, preceded only by red. Seriously, look it up. There's a couple random words in the top ten list, like unicorn, but it's mostly assorted fruits and colors. Of course, there's also pineapple juice, but that's a different story. ("That is change. You know how long it took me … Continue reading Pineapple Juice!

How to Explore Your Kinky Limits Safely

As I started looking into positive discussions on BDSM limits, I found an incredibly large amount of documents out there available for free. The intention of these is to read through each listed kink, mark them in one of several categories (haven't tried it, curious, soft limit, hard limit...), and discuss each as a couple. … Continue reading How to Explore Your Kinky Limits Safely

You can overcome negative emotions with communication

This prompt in 30 Days is on negative emotions; jealousy, anger, and fear. For me and my Dom, few negative emotions exist outside of conflict. Jealousy between us isn't more than a fleeting moment, if at all. Honestly, if someone flirted with Mr.R it might turn me on, though it would probably make him pretty … Continue reading You can overcome negative emotions with communication

Squeakity, Squeak, Squeak, Squeakers.

This topic for 30 Days of D/s is about communication. Communication was always a strong point for us, before D/s became part of our dynamic. But like everything else in our relationship, it has become that much stronger and more important in D/s. We have created several protocols and routines that enforce our need to … Continue reading Squeakity, Squeak, Squeak, Squeakers.