This 30 days post is about bringing D/s into your vanilla life. I didn't find this email list until well after Mr.R and I were into D/s, so I thought I'd use this opportunity to tell more about how we came into D/s. Our D/s started with me. I invited Mr.R into D/s, after struggling … Continue reading Once, Twice, Three times a submissive.
This video is by far my most favorite when it comes to consent. It has nothing to do with BDSM or D/s specifically, but rather talks about consent in a broader sense, applying to all people. This is the British Voice Over version, because everything - especially when dealing with tea - is better with … Continue reading Would you like a cup of tea?
Pineapple is the second most common safeword, preceded only by red. Seriously, look it up. There's a couple random words in the top ten list, like unicorn, but it's mostly assorted fruits and colors. Of course, there's also pineapple juice, but that's a different story. ("That is change. You know how long it took me … Continue reading Pineapple Juice!
As I started looking into positive discussions on BDSM limits, I found an incredibly large amount of documents out there available for free. The intention of these is to read through each listed kink, mark them in one of several categories (haven't tried it, curious, soft limit, hard limit...), and discuss each as a couple. … Continue reading How to Explore Your Kinky Limits Safely
This prompt in 30 Days is on negative emotions; jealousy, anger, and fear. For me and my Dom, few negative emotions exist outside of conflict. Jealousy between us isn't more than a fleeting moment, if at all. Honestly, if someone flirted with Mr.R it might turn me on, though it would probably make him pretty … Continue reading You can overcome negative emotions with communication
This topic for 30 Days of D/s is about communication. Communication was always a strong point for us, before D/s became part of our dynamic. But like everything else in our relationship, it has become that much stronger and more important in D/s. We have created several protocols and routines that enforce our need to … Continue reading Squeakity, Squeak, Squeak, Squeakers.
I've been meandering around this idea. Conflict has to be dealt with in a relationship; vanilla or D/s. It is a natural part of any relationship, and the strategies a coping mechanisms you use evolve naturally as you and your relationship evolves. We certainly don't fight now like we did when we were 20 - … Continue reading Can conflict build the backbone of your D/s?
Today's topic is about discipline and punishment. For me and my Dom, the timing was perfect as we were diving into new depths in this arena. The presentation of it by LovingBDSM included some very thoughtful and positive discussion questions and resources (Thanks again, Kayla!), and has made way for a great conversation\negotiation that was … Continue reading Can discipline make you stronger?
I like the way this topic is brought up in 30 Days of D/s; Negotiation is a fancy word for talk. With 20 years of marriage already under our belt, my Dom and I have certainly gone through some ups and downs, and learned how to talk under a myriad of circumstance and needs along … Continue reading A need, a desire, and an idea
== Results from bdsmtest.org == 100% Submissive 100% Rope bunny 99% Slave 92% Masochist 90% Degradee 79% Boy/Girl 75% Pet 73% Primal (Prey) 71% Exhibitionist 67% Experimentalist 48% Voyeur 47% Non-monogamist 40% Daddy/Mommy 40% Brat 20% Ageplayer 18% Vanilla 11% Primal (Hunter) 5% Rigger 4% Brat tamer 1% Dominant 1% Switch 1% Sadist 0% Degrader … Continue reading Titles, Terms, and Labels