I've been meandering around this idea. Conflict has to be dealt with in a relationship; vanilla or D/s. It is a natural part of any relationship, and the strategies a coping mechanisms you use evolve naturally as you and your relationship evolves. We certainly don't fight now like we did when we were 20 - … Continue reading Can conflict build the backbone of your D/s?
Today's topic is about discipline and punishment. For me and my Dom, the timing was perfect as we were diving into new depths in this arena. The presentation of it by LovingBDSM included some very thoughtful and positive discussion questions and resources (Thanks again, Kayla!), and has made way for a great conversation\negotiation that was … Continue reading Can discipline make you stronger?
I like the way this topic is brought up in 30 Days of D/s; Negotiation is a fancy word for talk. With 20 years of marriage already under our belt, my Dom and I have certainly gone through some ups and downs, and learned how to talk under a myriad of circumstance and needs along … Continue reading A need, a desire, and an idea
== Results from bdsmtest.org == 100% Submissive 100% Rope bunny 99% Slave 92% Masochist 90% Degradee 79% Boy/Girl 75% Pet 73% Primal (Prey) 71% Exhibitionist 67% Experimentalist 48% Voyeur 47% Non-monogamist 40% Daddy/Mommy 40% Brat 20% Ageplayer 18% Vanilla 11% Primal (Hunter) 5% Rigger 4% Brat tamer 1% Dominant 1% Switch 1% Sadist 0% Degrader … Continue reading Titles, Terms, and Labels
This is the second prompt in the 30 Days of D/s series. Submissy recent writing prompt, Tell me About it..., was also about submission. I responded to it only a few days ago in this post. I spoke deeply and personally about my experience as a sub, focusing on the transition I went through in becoming my Master's … Continue reading The making and growth of a submissive.
I signed up for Kayla Lords (free!) 30 days of D/s. It's designed to help you gain a "better understanding of what you want and need in your D/s relationship." It is also available as a workbook. This is day 1, and the topic is Dominance - specifically what kind of a person is a … Continue reading What it takes to be an effective Dominant.
Trust. I can think of no other way to describe submissiveness then trust. Undying, devotional, deep, unconditional trust. Trust so deep it runs like an ocean, and brings tears to my eyes. Before I became his submissive, I thought we had trust. I saw trust as knowing he was faithful, he loved me, and that … Continue reading Tell me about…submission.