Communication is a tricky thing. It comes and goes, waxes and wanes. What you do with it can make or break a situation or a relationship. Having it alone isn't enough. Quantity does not equal quality, and sometimes less is more. But not having enough can be death's kiss. If you are in a power-exchange … Continue reading Here’s 4 ways to strengthen your communication
We have four kids and 4 grandkids, so the next 30 days topic on being kinky and being a parent is definitely something I had to think about. When we started our power-exchange how to behave around our kids was something I thought about all the time. I had a lot of worries and fears, … Continue reading Trying to Make the Juggling Act Look Easy.
This next post from the 30 days of D/s is about Tasks and rituals. We have a few daily routines that keep our D/s strong and in place every day. If you are looking to start a power-exchange, this is the place to start, by building routines and rituals. They can be a place to … Continue reading The Daily Routines that Bind us
Master and I took a minute to go over our rules this morning. It seemed like time, since we hadn't done it in a while. Or so I thought. Covid-time has got me all messed up, and it turned out the last time we wrote something out wasn't all that long ago, last february. The … Continue reading Gaining pleasure in our surprising progress
This post is all about sexual vocabulary, so grab your notepads and get ready to expand your brains. *Disclaimer: There's no great big book of the proper sex vocabulary and their definitions, (OMG, I should totally write that.) so this is of course, all based off my interpretation and experience from life, the kink community, … Continue reading Edging versus Orgasm Denial, what’s the diff?
Last night I asked one too many questions about exactly what would happen if I did fuck myself in the middle of the night. "If you made yourself cum, you'd be punished," Master went on, but I already knew the answer. I suppose I wanted to hear him say it, describe it just to prove … Continue reading The state of things.
This is a real question I have. No, I'm not talking about topping from the bottom. Nor am I talking about my dynamic specifically. It might be more accurate phrased differently. Especially since I can hear your knee-jerk reaction. I heard mine. Hit the table, knee still hurts... But seriously, if you know anything about … Continue reading Can a submissive train a Master?
Punishment, or more accurately, your use of punishment is a major element in any power-exchange relationship. That doesn't mean you should definitely have it. It does mean you should definitely talk about it, have negotiated norms and expectations around it. You should also leave room to renegotiate those terms as time passes and your dynamic … Continue reading How to use PUNISHMENT to shape your dynamic effectively.
The amazing thing about kink, and being in this community, is that we all had to fight to get here. We all have a kinky journey of self acceptance and love. You know the story, it was the one where you had an inner beast to overcome.
My Master rarely gives me assignments, but he did last month concerning subspace. It happens to coincide with my next 30-Days topic, which is also on sub-space, so ta-da! Before describing subspace, I think it is important to separate it from the 'feeling' of submissiveness. They are really quite different, and should be recognized separately. … Continue reading Do you want to play in subspace?