Last night I asked one too many questions about exactly what would happen if I did fuck myself in the middle of the night. "If you made yourself cum, you'd be punished," Master went on, but I already knew the answer. I suppose I wanted to hear him say it, describe it just to prove … Continue reading The state of things.
This is a real question I have. No, I'm not talking about topping from the bottom. Nor am I talking about my dynamic specifically. It might be more accurate phrased differently. Especially since I can hear your knee-jerk reaction. I heard mine. Hit the table, knee still hurts... But seriously, if you know anything about … Continue reading Can a submissive train a Master?
Punishment, or more accurately, your use of punishment is a major element in any power-exchange relationship. That doesn't mean you should definitely have it. It does mean you should definitely talk about it, have negotiated norms and expectations around it. You should also leave room to renegotiate those terms as time passes and your dynamic … Continue reading How to use PUNISHMENT to shape your dynamic effectively.
The amazing thing about kink, and being in this community, is that we all had to fight to get here. We all have a kinky journey of self acceptance and love. You know the story, it was the one where you had an inner beast to overcome.
My Master rarely gives me assignments, but he did last month concerning subspace. It happens to coincide with my next 30-Days topic, which is also on sub-space, so ta-da! Before describing subspace, I think it is important to separate it from the 'feeling' of submissiveness. They are really quite different, and should be recognized separately. … Continue reading Do you want to play in subspace?
Mr.R and I have been full-time D/s for an entire year now. Officially. YAY!!!! Applause accepted gracefully. Thank you, and curtsy. 🙂 I have to say I'm quite proud of us. When we started a year ago I had no idea what I was getting into. Which is weird, I admit, because I was the … Continue reading Happy D/s-iversary to us!!!!
Master and I recently had a really great goal-setting discussion. Actually, we've had a lot of really great discussions lately. Not only that, but our D/s has been growing exponentially in many ways, leaving me feeling really well cared for and important to him. A good dose of humiliation and submissiveness does a little minnie … Continue reading In a World Where D/s is the Goal…
This summer has been weird, confusing. I wish I could say our new life is shaping up to be exactly what we wanted, exactly what we thought it would be, but that couldn't be further from the truth. The last two months feels like a lifetime's worth of choices. To make a long story short, … Continue reading My upside down summer, and what to do about it.
My mom and sisters have been visiting all week. It's been a great treat, especially since they are flying in from across the country. It has given me the family connection I needed after moving two states away. They do not, however, know who I really am, minnie. They know my vanilla self, the child … Continue reading Stuck in a rabbit hole?
I think a D/s relationship, especially a 24/7 D/s relationship requires an unusually high level of trust. Higher then most relationships, higher then a standard vanilla relationship. It also fosters and grows a heightened level of trust, making the need and feeding of trust cyclic. I think a great deal of that trust building comes … Continue reading Trust is a five-letter word.