Many people think of contracts as a statement, or possibly a list, written and signed on a particular date. It locks a moment in time, and the agreements made in that moment. While this process works for some, many find it cumbersome, too rigid, and hard to keep current. Sometimes people accidently lock down a … Continue reading How to Improve and Strengthen your D/s with a Living Contract
This year, as part of our annual review at our D/s-iversary, we created a new collaring ritual. Our ritual holds great purpose and meaning, the most significant of which is grounding ourselves in our individual roles as dominate and submissive. It reinforces our power exchange by centering our minds on those roles for the day. … Continue reading Designing my Collaring to be Open and Focused
Power exchange relationships are some of the most complex and deep relationships you can enter. They require a great deal of communication, and yield an even greater deal of intensity. They also need maintenance, evaluation, and reassessment of what is working and what isn't. They aren't for everyone. Master and I started our power-exchange at … Continue reading Reviewing our Power Exchange for 2021
We're coming up on our two year D/s-iversery. Um, yes, that's a thing. In honor of our two years in a full time, 24/7, power exchange relationship - we threw it out. Ha ha ha! Gotcha! I'm exaggerating, of course, but it's true. What we are literally doing is starting from scratch. Or, at least, … Continue reading Why we’re celebrating our D/s-Anniversary by starting over.
Not all power exchange dynamics include acts of service. While it is more common than punishment, it is still one of those things that doesn't fit everyone. It also fits in dynamics differently for different people. For some, acts of service go both ways; from each side of the slash to the other. For others, … Continue reading Is this an Act of Service or a Chore?
There are many sides to who I can become in my role as his submissive. I can be his little girl, his good girl, his whore, or his fuck toy. Each of these is unique and different, a distinct feeling and place in my brain. My personality is slightly to dramatically different in each. I … Continue reading What I am to him – my four roles
Communication is a tricky thing. It comes and goes, waxes and wanes. What you do with it can make or break a situation or a relationship. Having it alone isn't enough. Quantity does not equal quality, and sometimes less is more. But not having enough can be death's kiss. If you are in a power-exchange … Continue reading Here’s 4 ways to strengthen your communication
The next prompt for 30 days is exploring kinks. We've done a lot of that lately, but if you're doing it right, the exploration never stops. My Master even mentioned an interest in going through our checklist worksheet again, just to see where we are and what's changed over the last couple years. Me, I'm … Continue reading In with some new kinks, and revisiting the old
We have four kids and 4 grandkids, so the next 30 days topic on being kinky and being a parent is definitely something I had to think about. When we started our power-exchange how to behave around our kids was something I thought about all the time. I had a lot of worries and fears, … Continue reading Trying to Make the Juggling Act Look Easy.
This next post from the 30 days of D/s is about Tasks and rituals. We have a few daily routines that keep our D/s strong and in place every day. If you are looking to start a power-exchange, this is the place to start, by building routines and rituals. They can be a place to … Continue reading The Daily Routines that Bind us