I would argue all relationships have rules. Maybe they aren't written down, but they are there, under the surface. An expectation or a condition that, if it isn't met, has consequences. They naturally grow and change with time, and are driven by some need, either spoken or silent, by one or both of the partners. … Continue reading I’ll take some Rules, Consequences, and Pretty Things.
When I first saw this topic I wondered what I would have to say about safewords... again. I already posted about it for the 30 days of D/s here, and made various other small mentions of it. However, it turned out to have come at the right time. Honestly, Mr.R and I haven't had much … Continue reading Is it time for you to adopt a safe word?
I got my name from Mr.R. We were fresh into this D/s, 24/7/365 life, maybe a week. I told him I wanted a submissive name over a text. We were sitting next to each other in the living room. There were prying ears around, but I didn't want to wait. I couldn't wait. Not another … Continue reading Becoming minnie.
We live in the Pacific Northwest. It rains here. A lot. If I could run around in pink boots and carry a cute, little pink umbrella, and play in the rain all day, I think I would like it. In reality, I feel more like this... ... so we are considering moving to Southern California. … Continue reading Do you have a kinky community?
When Master and I entered into D/s we'd been BDSM in the bedroom for decades - two to be exact, as long as we've been together. We were BDSM before we knew what it was. With the vocabulary I have now, I can see bondage, sensation deprivation, humiliation, voyeurism, and few other kinks in there. … Continue reading What’s in a (BDSM) symbol?
This 30 Days topic is about the ups and downs of life, the things that bring stress into a relationship, the things that pull you out of your D/s dynamic. I heard once that money, parenting, and the in-laws are the three biggest causes of divorce in a marriage. I would wager that was also … Continue reading The Waxing and Waning of D/s
Mr. R and I have a trip to Disneyland coming up in a couple weeks. We've taken our kids several times, but this will the first time we've gone alone since the 90s (*insert me jumping here). Mr.R has a Disneyland addiction. Yes, that's where 'minnie' (my name) came from. Before D/s, I never saw … Continue reading Being Brave: why I gave away the power to rule my kingdom.
We are about to rewrite our rules. There's not necessarily anything wrong with the ones we have, except they haven't been updated in a while. The 14th topic for Loving BDSM's 30 Days is rules, so it seems the perfect time to bring it up. Our rules have always been a work in progress. Or, … Continue reading Getting a brand new set of rules.
This 30 days post is about bringing D/s into your vanilla life. I didn't find this email list until well after Mr.R and I were into D/s, so I thought I'd use this opportunity to tell more about how we came into D/s. Our D/s started with me. I invited Mr.R into D/s, after struggling … Continue reading Once, Twice, Three times a submissive.
This video is by far my most favorite when it comes to consent. It has nothing to do with BDSM or D/s specifically, but rather talks about consent in a broader sense, applying to all people. This is the British Voice Over version, because everything - especially when dealing with tea - is better with … Continue reading Would you like a cup of tea?