We are about to rewrite our rules. There's not necessarily anything wrong with the ones we have, except they haven't been updated in a while. The 14th topic for Loving BDSM's 30 Days is rules, so it seems the perfect time to bring it up. Our rules have always been a work in progress. Or, … Continue reading Getting a brand new set of rules.
This 30 days post is about bringing D/s into your vanilla life. I didn't find this email list until well after Mr.R and I were into D/s, so I thought I'd use this opportunity to tell more about how we came into D/s. Our D/s started with me. I invited Mr.R into D/s, after struggling … Continue reading Once, Twice, Three times a submissive.
This video is by far my most favorite when it comes to consent. It has nothing to do with BDSM or D/s specifically, but rather talks about consent in a broader sense, applying to all people. This is the British Voice Over version, because everything - especially when dealing with tea - is better with … Continue reading Would you like a cup of tea?
Pineapple is the second most common safeword, preceded only by red. Seriously, look it up. There's a couple random words in the top ten list, like unicorn, but it's mostly assorted fruits and colors. Of course, there's also pineapple juice, but that's a different story. ("That is change. You know how long it took me … Continue reading Pineapple Juice!
As I started looking into positive discussions on BDSM limits, I found an incredibly large amount of documents out there available for free. The intention of these is to read through each listed kink, mark them in one of several categories (haven't tried it, curious, soft limit, hard limit...), and discuss each as a couple. … Continue reading How to Explore Your Kinky Limits Safely
This prompt in 30 Days is on negative emotions; jealousy, anger, and fear. For me and my Dom, few negative emotions exist outside of conflict. Jealousy between us isn't more than a fleeting moment, if at all. Honestly, if someone flirted with Mr.R it might turn me on, though it would probably make him pretty … Continue reading You can overcome negative emotions with communication
little minnie is the little side of me. She comes out when I am feeling particularly vulnerable. She is not a major part of me, per say. More specifically, we are not DD/lg full time. I am primarily submissive. However, I do touch into her, and she does feel like another side of me. minnie's … Continue reading little minnie
This topic for 30 Days of D/s is about communication. Communication was always a strong point for us, before D/s became part of our dynamic. But like everything else in our relationship, it has become that much stronger and more important in D/s. We have created several protocols and routines that enforce our need to … Continue reading Squeakity, Squeak, Squeak, Squeakers.
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. … Continue reading Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
I've been meandering around this idea. Conflict has to be dealt with in a relationship; vanilla or D/s. It is a natural part of any relationship, and the strategies a coping mechanisms you use evolve naturally as you and your relationship evolves. We certainly don't fight now like we did when we were 20 - … Continue reading Can conflict build the backbone of your D/s?