Many people think of contracts as a statement, or possibly a list, written and signed on a particular date. It locks a moment in time, and the agreements made in that moment. While this process works for some, many find it cumbersome, too rigid, and hard to keep current. Sometimes people accidently lock down a … Continue reading How to Improve and Strengthen your D/s with a Living Contract
This year, as part of our annual review at our D/s-iversary, we created a new collaring ritual. Our ritual holds great purpose and meaning, the most significant of which is grounding ourselves in our individual roles as dominate and submissive. It reinforces our power exchange by centering our minds on those roles for the day. … Continue reading Designing my Collaring to be Open and Focused
In my various searchings and ramblings across the internet I came across this little gem. If you do a google search for the image you will find it posted on various bdsm, spanking or other kinky sites and blogs. Some of which claim it is a fake due to the position of the spanking officer's … Continue reading A public spanking, indeed.
If you've been reading my blog lately, you'll have noticed I haven't been in the best head space. I am pushing through, and Master is making me new rules to get me back into place. They are very basic; 1) Make him coffee every morning by nine, 2) Get dressed - or more specifically be … Continue reading Curiosity killed the pussy cat.
Every so now and then I get really absorbed in a trend of thinking from the past. I am pretty anylictical, and get passionate about gender inequality issues, so they usually revolve around ideas of gender, or some other social identity that creates a discrepancy or division among groups of people. I see media and … Continue reading What a good spanking could do.
Not all power exchange dynamics include acts of service. While it is more common than punishment, it is still one of those things that doesn't fit everyone. It also fits in dynamics differently for different people. For some, acts of service go both ways; from each side of the slash to the other. For others, … Continue reading Is this an Act of Service or a Chore?
This next post from the 30 days of D/s is about Tasks and rituals. We have a few daily routines that keep our D/s strong and in place every day. If you are looking to start a power-exchange, this is the place to start, by building routines and rituals. They can be a place to … Continue reading The Daily Routines that Bind us
Master and I took a minute to go over our rules this morning. It seemed like time, since we hadn't done it in a while. Or so I thought. Covid-time has got me all messed up, and it turned out the last time we wrote something out wasn't all that long ago, last february. The … Continue reading Gaining pleasure in our surprising progress
I don't know when I last had an orgasm. My best approximation is the middle to the end of March. My Master decided to start a denial period at the beginning of April, however, that isn't when I last had an orgasm. We had already been edging for a couple days before that, but I … Continue reading What Orgasm Denial can do for you.
We entered into our full-time power exchange over a year ago. When we did, daily maintenance spankings instantly became part of our morning ritual, which in turn evolved into my daily collaring. Our ritual consisted of three parts; inspection, impact\spanking, and mantras. Each step was designed with intentional thought, driven from some need one of … Continue reading Morning Maintenance Spankings: A year-long reflection