Spanking has got to be the gateway drug into D/s and BDSM in general. And why wouldn't it be? Spanking is the best! I, personally, can't seem to stop talking about it. I even had to make a whole category. A standard leather flogger. Flogging is the next step up, spanking's big sister, if you … Continue reading Flogging, a girl’s best friend.
I was rummaging around over at Rebel's Notes, and rather enjoying my reading when I came across her most recent post. It was a response to the following question. What have you done sexually, that you would never do again? I'm not sure where she got this prompt, and it's not the kind of soul … Continue reading I won’t do it again. Pinky Promise.
I would argue all relationships have rules. Maybe they aren't written down, but they are there, under the surface. An expectation or a condition that, if it isn't met, has consequences. They naturally grow and change with time, and are driven by some need, either spoken or silent, by one or both of the partners. … Continue reading I’ll take some Rules, Consequences, and Pretty Things.
When I first saw this topic I wondered what I would have to say about safewords... again. I already posted about it for the 30 days of D/s here, and made various other small mentions of it. However, it turned out to have come at the right time. Honestly, Mr.R and I haven't had much … Continue reading Is it time for you to adopt a safe word?
Once upon a time, bondage was the bread and butter of our kink. That, and blindfolds. We didn't classify either as BDSM, mostly because we didn't know what BDSM was, at least not beyond the mainstream media of the 80's and 90's - which presented BDSM as the sign of an unhealthy mind. With the … Continue reading Bondage, blindfolds, and human furniture
The documentary is about women who have super orgasms. A super orgasm is one that lasts beyond your common single orgasm, even beyond the usual multiple orgasm. Instead, these orgasms push up into one another so fast, so frequent, that they stretch into clusters of unending orgams. They become indistinguishable from one another, so they … Continue reading Super orgasm? Yes, please!
This is the 13th post of the 30 days of D/s. The topic here is about pain. Do you like pain? Do you want pain? Do you want to inflict pain? I would consider myself to be something of a masochist. So, yes, I want the pain. Masochist - A masochist is an individual who … Continue reading Hurt me.
This video is by far my most favorite when it comes to consent. It has nothing to do with BDSM or D/s specifically, but rather talks about consent in a broader sense, applying to all people. This is the British Voice Over version, because everything - especially when dealing with tea - is better with … Continue reading Would you like a cup of tea?
Pineapple is the second most common safeword, preceded only by red. Seriously, look it up. There's a couple random words in the top ten list, like unicorn, but it's mostly assorted fruits and colors. Of course, there's also pineapple juice, but that's a different story. ("That is change. You know how long it took me … Continue reading Pineapple Juice!
As I started looking into positive discussions on BDSM limits, I found an incredibly large amount of documents out there available for free. The intention of these is to read through each listed kink, mark them in one of several categories (haven't tried it, curious, soft limit, hard limit...), and discuss each as a couple. … Continue reading How to Explore Your Kinky Limits Safely