What is a ‘traditional’ relationship?

There was a night, before Master and I were D/s, where I was crawling around in the attic plucking at red and black wires in the dark to finish the installation of the new ceiling fan. I’d gotten the over-sized fan with a built in bluetooth speaker as a final touch for the master bathroom … Continue reading What is a ‘traditional’ relationship?

A life free of stress from a scary new beginning.

I've been dealing with lots of health issues caused by stress since this school year started, and I went back to work. The most recent of which is an extremely tight jaw. If you haven't heard of this, it's root is in TMJ and is brought on by clenching or grinding your teeth. It's amazingly … Continue reading A life free of stress from a scary new beginning.

What a good spanking could do.

Every so now and then I get really absorbed in a trend of thinking from the past. I am pretty anylictical, and get passionate about gender inequality issues, so they usually revolve around ideas of gender, or some other social identity that creates a discrepancy or division among groups of people. I see media and … Continue reading What a good spanking could do.

How to use PUNISHMENT to shape your dynamic effectively.

Punishment, or more accurately, your use of punishment is a major element in any power-exchange relationship. That doesn't mean you should definitely have it. It does mean you should definitely talk about it, have negotiated norms and expectations around it. You should also leave room to renegotiate those terms as time passes and your dynamic … Continue reading How to use PUNISHMENT to shape your dynamic effectively.