My mom and sisters have been visiting all week. It's been a great treat, especially since they are flying in from across the country. It has given me the family connection I needed after moving two states away. They do not, however, know who I really am, minnie. They know my vanilla self, the child … Continue reading Stuck in a rabbit hole?
I think a D/s relationship, especially a 24/7 D/s relationship requires an unusually high level of trust. Higher then most relationships, higher then a standard vanilla relationship. It also fosters and grows a heightened level of trust, making the need and feeding of trust cyclic. I think a great deal of that trust building comes … Continue reading Trust is a five-letter word.
Mr.R and I are closing in on our move. Our house is in the most orderly disarray possible. Everything is set to show the house for potential buyers, it is all so shiny. And also impossible to really live in. A necessary evil. We've had many showings, a couple offers (that we turned down), and … Continue reading A change is coming.
Sub frenzy - Sub-frenzy, or submissive frenzy, is a term applied to newcomers to the kink and BDSM scene who experience a frenzy or rush to experience all the things kink has to offer sometimes bypassing common sense or good judgment to do so. (kinkly.com) When I saw this topic, I said to myself that … Continue reading Is there any good to be found in a frenzy?
As expected our vanilla life is swelling, and it has become a struggle to maintain a feeling of submissiveness. If it wasn't for our morning routine, I think our D/s would fall apart. We are doing a lot to sell our house right now, which is enormously stressful and the tip of the iceberg for … Continue reading A bit of reaffirmation.
I would argue all relationships have rules. Maybe they aren't written down, but they are there, under the surface. An expectation or a condition that, if it isn't met, has consequences. They naturally grow and change with time, and are driven by some need, either spoken or silent, by one or both of the partners. … Continue reading I’ll take some Rules, Consequences, and Pretty Things.
I'm officially recovered from pneumonia! Which happened to be followed by a nasty stomach flu that flowed through the house, and took everyone down one-by-one like the nastiest game of battleship ever. It was miserable. Luckily it is over now, and all I have to take is probiotics and get extra sleep. Our trip to … Continue reading Still Alive!
We live in the Pacific Northwest. It rains here. A lot. If I could run around in pink boots and carry a cute, little pink umbrella, and play in the rain all day, I think I would like it. In reality, I feel more like this... ... so we are considering moving to Southern California. … Continue reading Do you have a kinky community?
The next 30 days topic from Loving BDSM is about maintaining D/s when you're apart. This could be in a long distance relationship, through dating, traveling, or any other space that pulls you out of that headspace. For us, that is our simple, everyday life. Neither of our jobs are such that we can stay … Continue reading Ya put your D/s in. Ya put your D/s out. Ya put your D/s in, and ya shake it all about!
This 30 days post is about bringing D/s into your vanilla life. I didn't find this email list until well after Mr.R and I were into D/s, so I thought I'd use this opportunity to tell more about how we came into D/s. Our D/s started with me. I invited Mr.R into D/s, after struggling … Continue reading Once, Twice, Three times a submissive.