Many people think of contracts as a statement, or possibly a list, written and signed on a particular date. It locks a moment in time, and the agreements made in that moment. While this process works for some, many find it cumbersome, too rigid, and hard to keep current. Sometimes people accidently lock down a … Continue reading How to Improve and Strengthen your D/s with a Living Contract
Power exchange relationships are some of the most complex and deep relationships you can enter. They require a great deal of communication, and yield an even greater deal of intensity. They also need maintenance, evaluation, and reassessment of what is working and what isn't. They aren't for everyone. Master and I started our power-exchange at … Continue reading Reviewing our Power Exchange for 2021
We're coming up on our two year D/s-iversery. Um, yes, that's a thing. In honor of our two years in a full time, 24/7, power exchange relationship - we threw it out. Ha ha ha! Gotcha! I'm exaggerating, of course, but it's true. What we are literally doing is starting from scratch. Or, at least, … Continue reading Why we’re celebrating our D/s-Anniversary by starting over.
I've been dealing with lots of health issues caused by stress since this school year started, and I went back to work. The most recent of which is an extremely tight jaw. If you haven't heard of this, it's root is in TMJ and is brought on by clenching or grinding your teeth. It's amazingly … Continue reading A life free of stress from a scary new beginning.
I've been in the mood for more personal posts lately, so when I saw this floating around on Succulent Savage and collaredmichael's pages, I thought I'd participate while adding in more personal details about myself.•Been Married - I've been married my entire adult life. I've only actually been legally single for a few months.•Been divorced … Continue reading A list about me
This last year has been an eye-opener opener for me in so many ways. I'm not speaking to politics, or the pandemic, or the ongoing social crises we have been in. Though, all of those things are part of my life, as they are everyone else's too, and have influenced me. My current reflection and … Continue reading The gift of a year
Not all power exchange dynamics include acts of service. While it is more common than punishment, it is still one of those things that doesn't fit everyone. It also fits in dynamics differently for different people. For some, acts of service go both ways; from each side of the slash to the other. For others, … Continue reading Is this an Act of Service or a Chore?
I can't believe how long I have been absent from here! This is clearly the busy time of the year for me, since I was also absent this time last year. Combined with the quarantine, and living in a hotspot of cases, has led me to either being overly busy or feeling overwhelmed. Oh yeah, … Continue reading Hello All!
Communication is a tricky thing. It comes and goes, waxes and wanes. What you do with it can make or break a situation or a relationship. Having it alone isn't enough. Quantity does not equal quality, and sometimes less is more. But not having enough can be death's kiss. If you are in a power-exchange … Continue reading Here’s 4 ways to strengthen your communication
Master and I took a minute to go over our rules this morning. It seemed like time, since we hadn't done it in a while. Or so I thought. Covid-time has got me all messed up, and it turned out the last time we wrote something out wasn't all that long ago, last february. The … Continue reading Gaining pleasure in our surprising progress