Last night I asked one too many questions about exactly what would happen if I did fuck myself in the middle of the night. "If you made yourself cum, you'd be punished," Master went on, but I already knew the answer. I suppose I wanted to hear him say it, describe it just to prove … Continue reading The state of things.
I think I was always submissive. No one has ever seen me that way, and would probably think the opposite. I am known as a fighter. People have thought of me as someone who wants things my own way. It isn't true. It never has been. I just share my thoughts and ideas, while others … Continue reading I am what you made me.
This is a real question I have. No, I'm not talking about topping from the bottom. Nor am I talking about my dynamic specifically. It might be more accurate phrased differently. Especially since I can hear your knee-jerk reaction. I heard mine. Hit the table, knee still hurts... But seriously, if you know anything about … Continue reading Can a submissive train a Master?
Punishment, or more accurately, your use of punishment is a major element in any power-exchange relationship. That doesn't mean you should definitely have it. It does mean you should definitely talk about it, have negotiated norms and expectations around it. You should also leave room to renegotiate those terms as time passes and your dynamic … Continue reading How to use PUNISHMENT to shape your dynamic effectively.
My life has brought about a lot of changes lately. I have moved... twice-ish. Bought and sold a house. Started and stopped jobs a few times. 2019 was a transformative year for me in a lot of ways. I recently made another major change in my life, and am beginning a new phase. It has … Continue reading My 2020 blog. What do you want to see?
Mr.R and I have been full-time D/s for an entire year now. Officially. YAY!!!! Applause accepted gracefully. Thank you, and curtsy. 🙂 I have to say I'm quite proud of us. When we started a year ago I had no idea what I was getting into. Which is weird, I admit, because I was the … Continue reading Happy D/s-iversary to us!!!!
Over the past couple weeks I have been able to wear my leather slave collar out in public pretty consistently. This is mostly because we've been away from our vanilla life and kids, hanging out at our other house. It's a fun and safe place for us to play in in a truly full time … Continue reading Umm, excuse me. My collar is up here.
Our life is chugging along, and we are getting settled in. We have attended a couple local events, a munch and a vendor fair, with more on the horizon. We had more planned for this week, but -of course- I'm sick again. I swear I am constantly sick, especially compared to my Master. He is … Continue reading Chugging along
Sorry about all the radio...err... blog silence. It was a necessary evil in order to diminish stress and protect my mental health. I started a new a job back in September, and it's been super stressful (verging on, no, actual teacher abuse, ... but I'll stay off my soapbox here and leave that story for … Continue reading Radio Silence
This summer has been weird, confusing. I wish I could say our new life is shaping up to be exactly what we wanted, exactly what we thought it would be, but that couldn't be further from the truth. The last two months feels like a lifetime's worth of choices. To make a long story short, … Continue reading My upside down summer, and what to do about it.