How to use PUNISHMENT to shape your dynamic effectively.

Punishment, or more accurately, your use of punishment is a major element in any power-exchange relationship. That doesn't mean you should definitely have it. It does mean you should definitely talk about it, have negotiated norms and expectations around it. You should also leave room to renegotiate those terms as time passes and your dynamic … Continue reading How to use PUNISHMENT to shape your dynamic effectively.

Radio Silence

Sorry about all the radio...err... blog silence. It was a necessary evil in order to diminish stress and protect my mental health. I started a new a job back in September, and it's been super stressful (verging on, no, actual teacher abuse, ... but I'll stay off my soapbox here and leave that story for … Continue reading Radio Silence