McLintock! A spanking done right.

Recently, I wrote post about spanking in movies. I found these photographic gems from the movie I referenced, McLintock! with John Wayne and Maureen O'Hara. Yes, he is paddling her with an iron coal shovel. My favorite part is how everyone in the background is laughing and drinking heartily. It's as if the whole town … Continue reading McLintock! A spanking done right.

Reviewing our Power Exchange for 2021

Power exchange relationships are some of the most complex and deep relationships you can enter. They require a great deal of communication, and yield an even greater deal of intensity. They also need maintenance, evaluation, and reassessment of what is working and what isn't. They aren't for everyone. Master and I started our power-exchange at … Continue reading Reviewing our Power Exchange for 2021

Curiosity killed the pussy cat.

If you've been reading my blog lately, you'll have noticed I haven't been in the best head space. I am pushing through, and Master is making me new rules to get me back into place. They are very basic; 1) Make him coffee every morning by nine, 2) Get dressed - or more specifically be … Continue reading Curiosity killed the pussy cat.

What a good spanking could do.

Every so now and then I get really absorbed in a trend of thinking from the past. I am pretty anylictical, and get passionate about gender inequality issues, so they usually revolve around ideas of gender, or some other social identity that creates a discrepancy or division among groups of people. I see media and … Continue reading What a good spanking could do.

A punishment, a humiliation, a fantasy

I'm perched on the end of the bed, laid back, legs spread wide with each knee tied to the corresponding bed post. The position holds my pussy wide open, putting it on display. The binds are tight, and positioned up high enough it doesn't matter how hard I kick, there's no moving out of it. … Continue reading A punishment, a humiliation, a fantasy

Trust is a five-letter word.

I think a D/s relationship, especially a 24/7 D/s relationship requires an unusually high level of trust. Higher then most relationships, higher then a standard vanilla relationship. It also fosters and grows a heightened level of trust, making the need and feeding of trust cyclic. I think a great deal of that trust building comes … Continue reading Trust is a five-letter word.

Getting a brand new set of rules.

We are about to rewrite our rules. There's not necessarily anything wrong with the ones we have, except they haven't been updated in a while. The 14th topic for Loving BDSM's 30 Days is rules, so it seems the perfect time to bring it up. Our rules have always been a work in progress. Or, … Continue reading Getting a brand new set of rules.

Can discipline make you stronger?

Today's topic is about discipline and punishment. For me and my Dom, the timing was perfect as we were diving into new depths in this arena. The presentation of it by LovingBDSM included some very thoughtful and positive discussion questions and resources (Thanks again, Kayla!), and has made way for a great conversation\negotiation that was … Continue reading Can discipline make you stronger?

Maintenance Spankings are Delicious

Maintenance: to maintain, to keep, to sustain, the process of maintaining or preserving someone or something, or the state of being maintained Spanking: 1) to slap with an open hand, usually on the ass, generally in repetition. 2) To have a good time,“I’ve had a spanking good time!”. 3) To give a good impression, to … Continue reading Maintenance Spankings are Delicious