D/s doesn't require sex. "Wait. What? What did that say? Did that say, D/s DOESN'T require sex?" No, D/s doesn't require sex. D/s is a power exchange. It is one person giving up power while another takes the responsibility of that power in a relationship. This 30-days topic is about that power exchange and the … Continue reading The D/s Monster at the end of this post.
I got my name from Mr.R. We were fresh into this D/s, 24/7/365 life, maybe a week. I told him I wanted a submissive name over a text. We were sitting next to each other in the living room. There were prying ears around, but I didn't want to wait. I couldn't wait. Not another … Continue reading Becoming minnie.
We live in the Pacific Northwest. It rains here. A lot. If I could run around in pink boots and carry a cute, little pink umbrella, and play in the rain all day, I think I would like it. In reality, I feel more like this... ... so we are considering moving to Southern California. … Continue reading Do you have a kinky community?
This weekend I got to hit subspace pretty completely - as in, it completely satisfied me! I've been needing it for a while. Master and I have been on a 'waning' phase due to work and the regular stress of life. At times like these I can feel it build up in me. I also … Continue reading When Master Wins, minnie wins!
This 30 Days topic is about the ups and downs of life, the things that bring stress into a relationship, the things that pull you out of your D/s dynamic. I heard once that money, parenting, and the in-laws are the three biggest causes of divorce in a marriage. I would wager that was also … Continue reading The Waxing and Waning of D/s
The next 30 days topic from Loving BDSM is about maintaining D/s when you're apart. This could be in a long distance relationship, through dating, traveling, or any other space that pulls you out of that headspace. For us, that is our simple, everyday life. Neither of our jobs are such that we can stay … Continue reading Ya put your D/s in. Ya put your D/s out. Ya put your D/s in, and ya shake it all about!
We are about to rewrite our rules. There's not necessarily anything wrong with the ones we have, except they haven't been updated in a while. The 14th topic for Loving BDSM's 30 Days is rules, so it seems the perfect time to bring it up. Our rules have always been a work in progress. Or, … Continue reading Getting a brand new set of rules.
This is the 13th post of the 30 days of D/s. The topic here is about pain. Do you like pain? Do you want pain? Do you want to inflict pain? I would consider myself to be something of a masochist. So, yes, I want the pain. Masochist - A masochist is an individual who … Continue reading Hurt me.
This 30 days post is about bringing D/s into your vanilla life. I didn't find this email list until well after Mr.R and I were into D/s, so I thought I'd use this opportunity to tell more about how we came into D/s. Our D/s started with me. I invited Mr.R into D/s, after struggling … Continue reading Once, Twice, Three times a submissive.
This video is by far my most favorite when it comes to consent. It has nothing to do with BDSM or D/s specifically, but rather talks about consent in a broader sense, applying to all people. This is the British Voice Over version, because everything - especially when dealing with tea - is better with … Continue reading Would you like a cup of tea?