This is a real question I have. No, I'm not talking about topping from the bottom. Nor am I talking about my dynamic specifically. It might be more accurate phrased differently. Especially since I can hear your knee-jerk reaction. I heard mine. Hit the table, knee still hurts... But seriously, if you know anything about … Continue reading Can a submissive train a Master?
I would argue all relationships have rules. Maybe they aren't written down, but they are there, under the surface. An expectation or a condition that, if it isn't met, has consequences. They naturally grow and change with time, and are driven by some need, either spoken or silent, by one or both of the partners. … Continue reading I’ll take some Rules, Consequences, and Pretty Things.
D/s doesn't require sex. "Wait. What? What did that say? Did that say, D/s DOESN'T require sex?" No, D/s doesn't require sex. D/s is a power exchange. It is one person giving up power while another takes the responsibility of that power in a relationship. This 30-days topic is about that power exchange and the … Continue reading The D/s Monster at the end of this post.
We live in the Pacific Northwest. It rains here. A lot. If I could run around in pink boots and carry a cute, little pink umbrella, and play in the rain all day, I think I would like it. In reality, I feel more like this... ... so we are considering moving to Southern California. … Continue reading Do you have a kinky community?
As I started looking into positive discussions on BDSM limits, I found an incredibly large amount of documents out there available for free. The intention of these is to read through each listed kink, mark them in one of several categories (haven't tried it, curious, soft limit, hard limit...), and discuss each as a couple. … Continue reading How to Explore Your Kinky Limits Safely
I signed up for Kayla Lords (free!) 30 days of D/s. It's designed to help you gain a "better understanding of what you want and need in your D/s relationship." It is also available as a workbook. This is day 1, and the topic is Dominance - specifically what kind of a person is a … Continue reading What it takes to be an effective Dominant.