How to Improve and Strengthen your D/s with a Living Contract

Many people think of contracts as a statement, or possibly a list, written and signed on a particular date. It locks a moment in time, and the agreements made in that moment. While this process works for some, many find it cumbersome, too rigid, and hard to keep current. Sometimes people accidently lock down a … Continue reading How to Improve and Strengthen your D/s with a Living Contract

Reviewing our Power Exchange for 2021

Power exchange relationships are some of the most complex and deep relationships you can enter. They require a great deal of communication, and yield an even greater deal of intensity. They also need maintenance, evaluation, and reassessment of what is working and what isn't. They aren't for everyone. Master and I started our power-exchange at … Continue reading Reviewing our Power Exchange for 2021

Hello All!

I can't believe how long I have been absent from here! This is clearly the busy time of the year for me, since I was also absent this time last year. Combined with the quarantine, and living in a hotspot of cases, has led me to either being overly busy or feeling overwhelmed. Oh yeah, … Continue reading Hello All!

Happy D/s-iversary to us!!!!

Mr.R and I have been full-time D/s for an entire year now. Officially. YAY!!!! Applause accepted gracefully. Thank you, and curtsy. 🙂 I have to say I'm quite proud of us. When we started a year ago I had no idea what I was getting into. Which is weird, I admit, because I was the … Continue reading Happy D/s-iversary to us!!!!

An Edgy Allowance

minnie has earned an allowance! One free orgasm a month! Master still maintains complete control over when and where, but minnie gets one freebie. Additional orgasms may possibly be earned. Stolen orgasms - since they all belong to him - get punishment. My first allowance was granted this month, August. I'm still edging pretty high … Continue reading An Edgy Allowance

Getting a brand new set of rules.

We are about to rewrite our rules. There's not necessarily anything wrong with the ones we have, except they haven't been updated in a while. The 14th topic for Loving BDSM's 30 Days is rules, so it seems the perfect time to bring it up. Our rules have always been a work in progress. Or, … Continue reading Getting a brand new set of rules.

Squeakity, Squeak, Squeak, Squeakers.

This topic for 30 Days of D/s is about communication. Communication was always a strong point for us, before D/s became part of our dynamic. But like everything else in our relationship, it has become that much stronger and more important in D/s. We have created several protocols and routines that enforce our need to … Continue reading Squeakity, Squeak, Squeak, Squeakers.

Can discipline make you stronger?

Today's topic is about discipline and punishment. For me and my Dom, the timing was perfect as we were diving into new depths in this arena. The presentation of it by LovingBDSM included some very thoughtful and positive discussion questions and resources (Thanks again, Kayla!), and has made way for a great conversation\negotiation that was … Continue reading Can discipline make you stronger?

A need, a desire, and an idea

I like the way this topic is brought up in 30 Days of D/s; Negotiation is a fancy word for talk. With 20 years of marriage already under our belt, my Dom and I have certainly gone through some ups and downs, and learned how to talk under a myriad of circumstance and needs along … Continue reading A need, a desire, and an idea