I think a D/s relationship, especially a 24/7 D/s relationship requires an unusually high level of trust. Higher then most relationships, higher then a standard vanilla relationship. It also fosters and grows a heightened level of trust, making the need and feeding of trust cyclic. I think a great deal of that trust building comes … Continue reading Trust is a five-letter word.
Mr.R and I are closing in on our move. Our house is in the most orderly disarray possible. Everything is set to show the house for potential buyers, it is all so shiny. And also impossible to really live in. A necessary evil. We've had many showings, a couple offers (that we turned down), and … Continue reading A change is coming.
I got my second tattoo done! (Well, second of the three new ones I had planned, 4th tattoo in total.) I super love this one! I went to a different artist. The artist consultation I originally went to a while back didn't fully jive with me, so I have been bouncing around, looking for someone … Continue reading Celestial Tattoo
I would argue all relationships have rules. Maybe they aren't written down, but they are there, under the surface. An expectation or a condition that, if it isn't met, has consequences. They naturally grow and change with time, and are driven by some need, either spoken or silent, by one or both of the partners. … Continue reading I’ll take some Rules, Consequences, and Pretty Things.
This 30 Days topic is about the ups and downs of life, the things that bring stress into a relationship, the things that pull you out of your D/s dynamic. I heard once that money, parenting, and the in-laws are the three biggest causes of divorce in a marriage. I would wager that was also … Continue reading The Waxing and Waning of D/s
The next 30 days topic from Loving BDSM is about maintaining D/s when you're apart. This could be in a long distance relationship, through dating, traveling, or any other space that pulls you out of that headspace. For us, that is our simple, everyday life. Neither of our jobs are such that we can stay … Continue reading Ya put your D/s in. Ya put your D/s out. Ya put your D/s in, and ya shake it all about!
Master asked me to make a list of all the ways I submit. I'm not sure what he expected, but what he got was a T-chart which I had to stop after 4 pages due to time constraints. As a teacher, graphic organizers are a serious bit of fun for me. Somewhere in the back … Continue reading The ways in which I submit.
Maintenance: to maintain, to keep, to sustain, the process of maintaining or preserving someone or something, or the state of being maintained Spanking: 1) to slap with an open hand, usually on the ass, generally in repetition. 2) To have a good time,“I’ve had a spanking good time!”. 3) To give a good impression, to … Continue reading Maintenance Spankings are Delicious
This is the second prompt in the 30 Days of D/s series. Submissy recent writing prompt, Tell me About it..., was also about submission. I responded to it only a few days ago in this post. I spoke deeply and personally about my experience as a sub, focusing on the transition I went through in becoming my Master's … Continue reading The making and growth of a submissive.