A public spanking, indeed.

In my various searchings and ramblings across the internet I came across this little gem. If you do a google search for the image you will find it posted on various bdsm, spanking or other kinky sites and blogs. Some of which claim it is a fake due to the position of the spanking officer's … Continue reading A public spanking, indeed.

Curiosity killed the pussy cat.

If you've been reading my blog lately, you'll have noticed I haven't been in the best head space. I am pushing through, and Master is making me new rules to get me back into place. They are very basic; 1) Make him coffee every morning by nine, 2) Get dressed - or more specifically be … Continue reading Curiosity killed the pussy cat.

What a good spanking could do.

Every so now and then I get really absorbed in a trend of thinking from the past. I am pretty anylictical, and get passionate about gender inequality issues, so they usually revolve around ideas of gender, or some other social identity that creates a discrepancy or division among groups of people. I see media and … Continue reading What a good spanking could do.

A Sunrise Bruise

Over the last several months Master and I have gone through a myriad of small changes and evolutions. My blog has only showed a snippet of them. Last spring, I wrote nearly every day, especially in May. With the start of summer and into fall (my busy season) my posts dropped to nearly nothing, and … Continue reading A Sunrise Bruise

A photographic story of bondage and escape!

I've been extremely busy lately with two night classes I'm taking. Each class assigns at least 20 hours of homework each week, so I'm beyond maxed out between these and work and the rest of my life. If I had known how much work they would be, I would have taken only 1 at a … Continue reading A photographic story of bondage and escape!

Morning Maintenance Spankings: A year-long reflection

We entered into our full-time power exchange over a year ago. When we did, daily maintenance spankings instantly became part of our morning ritual, which in turn evolved into my daily collaring. Our ritual consisted of three parts; inspection, impact\spanking, and mantras. Each step was designed with intentional thought, driven from some need one of … Continue reading Morning Maintenance Spankings: A year-long reflection

How to take a bad girl and make her into a good girl

*content warning: explicit kinky sex I woke up angry. I told him as much. I told him I wanted to be bad. Very bad. "I've got a treatment for bad girls," he said. You start by cuffing their hands behind their back, and opening their legs with a spreader bar. You throw them in the … Continue reading How to take a bad girl and make her into a good girl

How to use PUNISHMENT to shape your dynamic effectively.

Punishment, or more accurately, your use of punishment is a major element in any power-exchange relationship. That doesn't mean you should definitely have it. It does mean you should definitely talk about it, have negotiated norms and expectations around it. You should also leave room to renegotiate those terms as time passes and your dynamic … Continue reading How to use PUNISHMENT to shape your dynamic effectively.