Punishment, or more accurately, your use of punishment is a major element in any power-exchange relationship. That doesn't mean you should definitely have it. It does mean you should definitely talk about it, have negotiated norms and expectations around it. You should also leave room to renegotiate those terms as time passes and your dynamic … Continue reading How to use PUNISHMENT to shape your dynamic effectively.
Spanking has got to be the gateway drug into D/s and BDSM in general. And why wouldn't it be? Spanking is the best! I, personally, can't seem to stop talking about it. I even had to make a whole category. A standard leather flogger. Flogging is the next step up, spanking's big sister, if you … Continue reading Flogging, a girl’s best friend.
Mr.R is the only person I have ever trusted to spank me, or use impact play with me in any way. If we did open the door for someone else to spank me, I think that would fall squarely into the straight up kink category. However, with Mr.R, spanking it by far more then just … Continue reading Spank me, please? It’s a thing of beauty.
When I first saw this topic I wondered what I would have to say about safewords... again. I already posted about it for the 30 days of D/s here, and made various other small mentions of it. However, it turned out to have come at the right time. Honestly, Mr.R and I haven't had much … Continue reading Is it time for you to adopt a safe word?
This weekend I got to hit subspace pretty completely - as in, it completely satisfied me! I've been needing it for a while. Master and I have been on a 'waning' phase due to work and the regular stress of life. At times like these I can feel it build up in me. I also … Continue reading When Master Wins, minnie wins!